i have learnt how to not speak of anything that sets him off with me. But now he is in a new job a week and he wants to be on the organising committe because he cannot just do as he is hired to but wants to run the show

He is also trying to ' help' someone who he percieves as not being credited at work .It s none of his business she is happy to do as she is employed to do but he has decided her work excessive.

And he is obsessing why all the information on a project at his work is not up immediately. They have to wait for dates times but are building the site so they can then slot in the times. He says the should put all the info up at once.

Also when he is saying something to me in coffee shop which is not a big secret but maybe private/not PC he looks around conspiratorially as if to see if anyone listening. I just speak lower

Any new experience he has has to be repeated over and over and become part of texts or conversation

Going to give coffee a miss for a while as I am fed up with the constant rehashing and obsessing about his job where i do not even know the people involved. Nearly screamed at him yesterday. I did scream inside my head