Oh sarah I'm so sorry you had to go through this experience with your daughter! I think you handled your daughter and her boyfriend J very well. Your daughter sounds like she's really struggling to find herself and her place, and she's surrounded by negative people like this J guy who are distracting her from finding her true path.

There's nothing you could have done differently. I hope that she will give your family therapy a real chance time time. Hang in there! You're a great mom!