This sounds like a huge amount of trauma, Journey-Man. I'm very sorry this happened to you, this should never happen to any child. I believe personally that no matter what the diagnosis is, if you can get some help going through your feelings about this abuse, "processing" the trauma as they say, it will lessen the symptoms you're suffering with, and improve your life. I would say, focus on the trauma and not on the DSM labels, if you can do that. None of this was your fault, none of this should ever have happened to you, and it's unfair that you are forced to deal with its aftermath, but you can do it with some help. Just remember it's nothing about you that led to any of this abuse. I'm sure you already know this, but if the abuser tried to make it seem that you went along with it, that is merely another layer of the abuse. No child ever consents to being harmed. Again, I'm so sorry. Wishing the best for you, your wife, and your kids.