My T and I regularly sit in silence. When I first started with him, speaking and delving into things was terrifying. I often didn’t speak until the last 15 minutes. It also drove me insane that he wouldn’t “save me” and step in and start the conversation.

Gradually, I learned that I was 8n charge of my own therapy and I decided when and what we talk about. Now, during a session we might sit in comfortable silences of 5 minutes or so while I process things and decide what I want to share next. And I love that he doesn’t jump in and push me to talk—I see how powerful it is that I am in charge.