CantExplain is that what you'd do once your spouse dies? My mom never remarried after my dad died from cancer b/c he was her soul mate. Grief doesn't slow down remarrying anyone, and does not make it more difficult to replace the person. Do you know why people divorce their 2nd or 3rd spouses? Because they didn't grieve and process through their first marriage, however that marriage ended. Read the research.

Sounds like you dislike grief and view it as a waste of your time. What do you think is the best way to deal with traumatic life events? Ignore them? Pretend they didn't happen?