i too have had contact with my ex-T after terminating, although they have been meetings in public places, and not in his office or official therapy sessions that i paid for. he was especially keen to meet after i had requested my session notes. when i first asked for them, his reaction was to question what reason i needed them for and i suspect he thought i had intentions to use them to against him in a complaint. we met a couple times to discus them. he genuinely seemed interested and concerned about what i shared and had to say, but at the same time, he wanted to use the meetings to share with me all the new training and improvements he had been doing since i left. he also threw in a story about how a client who ended three years prior had contacted him out of the blue via email to share his gratitude and how helpful therapy had been for him.

i went to these meeting for my own personal reasons of getting closure. i did get what felt like a sincere apology for many of the muck ups he made, and that really is all i was needing to help me put this experince behind me. but i did find it quite interesting at how he felt that he had to try and prove and defend himself at times. due to this, it has allowed me to see parts of him that i suspected existed when i was in therapy, but couldn't fully see until i stepped away and saw him from an entirely new perspective. i was finally seeing the real him and not the one i created or thought i had imagined through the enmeshment, projections, and transference that happened in therapy.