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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
My T also did this once. Could it be he dreads conflict with you/disappointing , and unconsciously put off telling you?
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Originally Posted by feileacan
To me that seems a very plausible explanation. The OP's T seems to have changed course recently quite a bit. Who knows what counter-transferences are at work there. But to just forget to announce the vacation as an innocent mistake - nah, it doesn't sound logical to me.
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my ex-T did this more than once and each time it lead to yet again another rupture. each time we talked through those ruptures, he would talk about how he felt like he was 'walking on eggshells' in regards to me and my reactions to him. basically, he was telling me that he struggled with disapointing me and to me, that signaled that was his lack of confidence and counter-transference he needed to work on. sadly he never really seemed to be able to get past that and we continued to have this same exact 'walking on eggshells' conversation up to the end.