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Originally Posted by rose1985
I had a bad night. Thanks for your kind words. I don't know when things will calm down for me. My sister that won't talk about my childhood is my biggest support. But she's also very in denial about a lot things that happened long ago. I guess I will just go off what I remember. Which is after my dad died my mom tried to take to her life like 4 times. I was a very scared child untIL I was in the about the 5th grade. Idk, I wis I had my sisters support through this.
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Hi Rose,
Sorry you have had a bad night. I think you might well have a few while doing trauma work?
I am also sorry your sister cannot go through some of the family history with you. I do think she may be feeling like she must protect herself from some of the memories. That is not such a "bad" thing. It is her coping mechanism and she feels she needs to take this stance for now. she needs to do whatever she needs to do to be safe.
I am sorry you both have not chosen to address your family trauma at the same time as one another; however, it is rare, in my experience, that sisters do this work within the same exact timing. Often, a sibling will choose to never take the same approach as other siblings.
If you choose this for yourself, then this is your chosen path. Others can assist us on our paths only to the extent that is does not hamper their own path and their own well-being.
I know you want support from your sister. Maybe think of some other ways she lends support without going through the trauma work with you?
I hope there are other ways she does support you. (I think there might be.)
I hope you have a better night tonight!
