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Misterpain · Jul 27, 2019, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by katydid777

Thank you for responding. I am so stressed about our meeting. I realize I am not her parent, I gave up that right. My prayer is that she doesn't hate me. I had always wanted a daughter, and when I was blessed to have one I gave her to another couple. When she first contacted me, she did for medical reasons, and I ended up being crushed. I am just so afraid. I am 54, and you would think I would have a backbone by now, but I don't, and no one that knows me understands. I don't know if I can handle rejection from her again. Can I friend you? I would be grateful for your input on this specially since you are on the other side from me. Also I have CPTSD. I have had a very hard life. If you don't want to be one of my friends, that is ok, I would understand.

You didn't give up the right to be a parent ,in the eyes of the law you made the best choice at the time .
In human terms you are a parent always.

It's not a question of a backbone ,your re exeperiencing a point of hardship and loss, thats painfull coupled with anxiety of hoping for a better relationship .

Absolutely you can friend me ,i am always somewhere on the net (I don't have a life LOL, actually I am retired due to health from the fire service) so I spend lots of time online . I am here if you need me ,i am 51 living in PA (Yeah I know who retires and lives in Pa,I ask myself that everday?).