If, god forbid, you have to deal with your son’s mental health care again, may I suggest leaving it up to your husband? When you spearhead the effort, people react to you—call the cops, threaten arrest, make all kinds of boneheaded excuses like “your son gets mail here so it’s his legal home” .

I don’t know why that happens, maybe your son looks all innocent in public, maybe they don’t take women seriously, maybe the situation is so awful for you that you get triggered and that shifts their attention to you instead of the real problem.

Trust your husband to deal with it.