I understand the stress feelings -- from the other direction. Am an adopted child, and did not meet my bio-mom until I was in my 30s. I contacted her for medical reasonsbc I had no bio family medical records. She ended up just picking up the phone and calling me, lol. We met several months later.

From my perspective, I think I can tell you that what your daughter wants is most likely understanding and acceptance. Like my own bio-mom, you gave her up for her own benefit. That's hard for a youngster to understand sometimes, but hopefully she is now at an age when it makes sense to her and she's had a bid wider experience of the world herself.

The very best to both of you.

Chyia