It's not selfish to want to be loved. It's the core of being human. It is our deepest want and most desperate need. And simply wanting to be a good friend is a huge step in the right direction.

If you were a truly selfish person, then you wouldn't care what kind of friend you were. You wouldn't be concerned about how your actions affect the people who care about you.

If you can understand this about yourself, and realize that you are n't as horrible as you think, maybe you can become a bit more confident in your relationships. Thinking well of yourself is not being conceited or grandiose or delusional. It's attractive and healthy.

Try making a list of your accomplishments. When you see how far you've come, you'll have agood reason to be proud of yourself. And celebrate those accomplishments. Get your friends together and go out. They'll be proud of you, too.