Not a military brat but was formerly active duty and now a reservist. Was never told to "soldier on" because I never told people my issues.

Does "T" mean therapist? If so, you need a new therapist. That's not his/her job to tell you to deal with it and "soldier on." It's their job to help you work through these issues. This sounds like an on-base therapist for some reason. You're better off with a therapist with no military affiliation.