Also had a run in with the in laws. Kidlet likes to pretend he is a girl and wears a pretend girl costume. He is a child, I see no harm. Today they yelled that he couldn't be a girl, he was only a boy. I told them very firmly that he is a girl if he wants to be at that time. They told me they didn't "do" gender fluidity. UGH they didn't give him this much hassle when he had a pretend butterfly costume or a super hero costume. He has a wild imagination and we just let him pretend to be anything he likes. He knows what pretend is and what real is.

He asked me afterwards why he couldn't pretend to be a girl and I told him in laws were old and they didn't understand lmao. Bad I know but man, leave the kid alone.

P.s he also likes to pretend he is a wolf, drgaon or dinosaur depending on the day.