Although I am here searching for questions more closely related to my concerns-when I read that you talk too loud, I continued reading because that is something I do and more than a handful of people have told me and tried to make me lower my voice. My comment is related to the reply from "hvert". You are spot on in your comment of saying... "t sounds to me like it is not just the volume. They don't want to listen and are used to engaging in this rude behavior of just telling you to stop talking". I have found that superficial issues like focusing on the volume, hand gesture usage or facial expressions are often just a tool that others use to either get you off track, react in a poor way or change the subject. But simply put...Don't want to listen. Everyone deserves to be heard.