How do you know when you’re done vs. when you are using avoidance as a defense mechanism. I’ve been ambivalent about therapy since I first met my therapist almost 2 years ago, wanting to run away while simultaneously very much wanting to go. Lately, my desire to be there has lessened. For the past several months I have been seeing him 2x/week although due to vacations and canceling I’ve only seen him once/week this summer. For the last 2 weeks I have canceled one of our two scheduled sessions and the world hasn’t fallen apart. In fact, it has felt fine and I’m feeling like this might be a sign that I’m done.

To be fair, looking at the flip side, I also don’t enjoy being the center of attention, being vulnerable, having needs, etc although I feel like I’m much more that way with my T than with others in my life. Although we never articulated goals, I do feel like my marriage is stronger and I’m more in touch with my emotions. I’m not sure I have much more to say in therapy. I do wonder if I’m just trying to hide from something but maybe I’m overthinking everything.

How do you know when you’re done?