I hear your pain, @Downtown1980! She was definitely abusive and manipulative towards you although you've made some mistakes as well, namely deciding to stick with her even after ALL of those red flags. Nevertheless, it's over now and I hope you'll be able to move on from this HORRIBLE experience! It seems like you've at least acknowledged your mistakes and that's good. You and your kids are in my Thoughts and Prayers! .throb: I hope things will get better soon for you. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'm sure others will be glad to hear you and help you as well. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and youd kids, Downtown1980!