The short end is that they are both strong willed to a fault almost.. my mother was dealing wtih some other mental health stuff, and snapped some pretty choice words, however she has tried to move past it etc.. Since then nothing has come of it, other than my wife has become more and more distant.. She openly admits that is the primary reason she is keeping me at a distance.. She said the only solution she really sees is for me to completely cut my mom out of my life, which I do not see as a solution. While I dont think she should have said the things she did, it was not bad enough to cut her out,l since she has made a real effort to change her behavior