Thanks so much MickeyCheeky. That's kind of where I get stuck -- I over communicate. He under communicates. So if I go to him and try to initiate the conversation, then its going to just feel like before. I've tried asking him to write his ideas down and he hasn't done that. He also isn't the best about telling me when something *does* irritate him, so I could just go about my day and not know that my asking if he locked the door irritated him because he felt I didn't 'trust' him.

He used to be great about communication but I think over the months and years, he has started to feel like my constant talking and questions and trying to really engage in conversation has been overwhelming. And I feel like his drawing away has been underwhelming.

I just need for him to be open and honest with me, but I also know that I need to get better on how I respond and react when he is being honest. Even if it hurts my feelings or I don't agree with it, I need to respect his boundaries better too.