I don't think it's his job to scold you, but to support you in ways that help you do the best you can. For about a year, I drank every day, then in January I quit because I got gout. Sometime last month, stressors piled up and I started drinking again. I know I shouldn't drink as much as I do. If I had to guess, he probably doesn't want me drinking like this either. But not once has he scolded me or judged me in any way. We talk about it, about what purpose it serves me, and if I said "please help me quit", I don't doubt he'd do anything to help me. Anything but scold me or judge me or tell me he can't see me anymore if I'm drinking. I'm sorry you're not getting that right now. If you need to take a few hours or a whole day away from work, it's not his choice. He can encourage you, but it almost sounds like he's nagging you about it.