I think there is good insight in there.. I do however, think the author is describing people with bpd in stereotypical ways. The truth is bpd is much like many other “disorders” is a spectrum. I meet enough criteria to by dx with bpd, but I don’t always act the same way that “other” bpd patients do (according to this article).

For instance he talks about many patients pushing their t for more self-disclosure, in hounding them for hugs, or to break the rules just for them. I am generally the opposite, I tell t I need stricter boundaries, I get uncomfortable when t tells details of his life. And no way in hell do I want a hug from him.

BUT- I do for sure fear he will abandon me even after multiple reassurances that he is not going anywhere which is a very “typical” bpd trait.

I guess my point is- providers have a fear of treating all with bpd, because there may be some extreme cases out there. But I believe many other people with the dx is much like me me, more on the moderate side of the disorder.