I tend to be a people pleaser and I’ve been in a lot of controlling relationships with the lashing out and anger directed at me. I wish I could “forget” those mean people. It sucks when their last words to us are poisonous. One person who used me did this to me in my house after I had got married. I won’t repeat what he said. He was probably “jealous” but that’s no excuse I wish I had refused to let him back into my life at all... he was mean and callous (sorry about the rant )