What a horrible situation to be in. I don't know how I'd deal with that either. I'm guessing your T may think you behaved unconsciously, in which case she's probably questioning you to try and find out if that's a possibility. That's very different to thinking you did it intentionally, but I can imagine how upsetting it is feel that T is angry with you and believes you did it on purpose. I hope you can work through this together. I'm assuming your insurance will be on the job to sort out any repairs etc, so try to focus on your relationship with T. I hope it was strong before this happened? I was wondering if you could write a letter to her saying that you feel awful about it. Sometimes writing something down is easier than saying it.