You're not pitiful and you're trying, but if there's no cooperation form the other side, it's hard, @sarcgeo. Please don't be so hard on yourself. You're a WONDERFUL Father as you're trying your best and that's ALL we Human Beings can REALLY do, right? Hopefully your therapist will be of some help. Do not blame yourself for what is happening. Divorce is hard for EVERYONE and I'm sure your little Daughter still Loves you very much and she will understand. I am SO SORRY that you're going through ALL of this. Sending many safe, warm hugs and many happy, positive vibes to BOTH you and your Daughter, sarcgeo!