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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
Do you think these skills are learnable?
Of course, if the other person (irl..) is unwilling, all the kindness, warmth, empathy, conflict management /resolution skills and attempts to grow will hit a brick wall  |
Warmth, emotional warmth, I don't know, Fuzzy. That may be an innate trait.
But conflict management you DEFINITELY can learn, as EskieLover says. Over many years I've plugged along trying to learn effective ways of doing this. Definitely there has been improvement. One important thing I've found for myself is to avoid criticizing the other person, and stick with those "I" statements. I've also found that I can't do defiant, dominant, or feisty. I just have to respectfully state my needs to the other person and hope for the best. Sometimes there will be accord, sometimes, sadly, not.
