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Old Aug 01, 2019, 02:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Scooter9 View Post
I had a couple of arguments with my wife.


She wants to get some work done around the house and I'm indifferent to the ideas. She says I don't show any joy about, or interest in the projects. She says she's happy for me when I do stuff and wants the same in return.


It's hard to pretend to be happy when I have been depressed for 19 months now. And it feels so insincere when I do fake it and I just don't have the interest to do that. So instead we argue about why I'm not happy.


Would have been easier to fake it.


19 months is a very long time to be depressed, maybe more Med changes are needed?? Or sometimes scrap them all and start a new plan with your Pdocs approval.

To fake it or not ..... what I have found that works the best for me and the people around me is to fake things, I can’t do it day in and day out of course. But many times while I’m faking it I can feel a flutter in me that reminds me I can be stable and enjoy life, it just takes the right combo of things, meds, T, selfcare etc.

Would your wife consider couples counseling? A safe place you can hash things out and come up with a game plan on how you both can find happiness together even if Bipolar is tearing its ugly head ? This doesn’t mean you have to cow down, it’s a marriage a partnership. Both people have to work on themselves too.
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