Hey, i’m 18 years old, I live with my parents and occasionally stay at my girlfriends house. I have a cat that I try to get back to as much as I can (he lives in my room) and 2 brothers and sisters that I try to talk to occasionally. Since I’ve turned 16, I immediately got the closes job I could and I began to give my parents around 400$ out of my 500$ checks (basically 4/5 of all of my checks) and stay committed to school as much as possible. I’ve never given them lip about having my money because they allowed me to use their beat up old van to get to and from school and work, and they give me a roof over my head. We’ve been in serious financial disasters and literally live off of $800-$1,000 a month (keep in mind taking care of 4 kids and 3 adults plus a pretty expensive house that our grandparents pay for) and my parents seem to care very little about making actual money. my dad lives off disability, more or less milking the injury, and my mom is an alcoholic and is extremely bipolar on the anger side of it. as i turned 18, they became more and more disrespectful towards me (in terms of continuing to tell me no when i want to go somewhere, or arguing whenever i need money to do something). I became tired of it and began to fire back. i don’t cuss, i don’t do drugs, i graduated highschool and am going to college through financial aid, and they continue to tell me i’m ungrateful and they can’t be bothered to listen to me when I explain that i’m tired of paying for their habits. recently, my mom had to go to rehab at an attempt to slow or stop her alcoholic behaviors. she was soon release after 5 days and has since then started drinking as normal again. simply sending her to get help costed well over a thousand dollars, that they’re continuing to try to pull from my pockets. they make me feel bad for everything, and as much as I hate to play the victim, it’s the only defense I have against them. they have no idea how much people give to them, and I specifically feel bad for my dad for being stuck with my mom. he complains all of the time about her, but once again, nothing changes. I’ve been kicked out once already for an argument but they basically begged me to come back and made me feel bad through comments similar to “the grass is greener on the other side”.

I don’t know what to do at this point, I don’t want to move out because it’ll pull me away from the family, but at the same time I want to be able to live my own life without being question or made look like a bad person for wanting to do so.