Stuck, it's very important you realize WHAT it will mean for YOU if she was able to get pregnant by you. That child would be something YOU would be held responsible for and be expected to pay towards it's care even if your marriage did not work out. It's important to pay attention to what your wife is doing too when she tries to emotionally blackmail you, once you have that child she can use that to blackmail you with as well. A woman who practices emotional blackmail and with holding WILL do that same with a child too. As I mentioned that is extremely unhealthy for a child to experience and can create life long challenges that YOU would be stuck dealing with. And what if the child ends up having special needs? That's even more challenging for ANY parent let alone a parent that was not ready to have a child to begin with.

You are JUST starting to work and earn your way in your life right now, you should be much more established before you commit to take on the responsibility of a child. Also, once she gets that child she will most likely not be there for you, do you want that? After all, she isn't really there for YOU now all that much is she? Actually, she sounds extremely immature and on the selfish side and she may very well put you in a position where you are trapped when you have not really had time to work and grow as a person yet. Keep in mind the human brain doesn't even finish growing until about age 25. A person grows and matures a great deal between that time and when they reach their 30's.

I am not one that cares to tell people what to do or to end a relationship. Instead I prefer to offer some advice that I think may help a person make a better decision for themselves while considering things they may not even think about yet.

You presented that list of how to be in a healthy relationship. You noticed areas that you were lacking. That list is of things you need to work on while married and marriage/relationships ARE work and require both individuals to be willing to do that work. It's very important when making a decision to have a child that you understand the very long commitment when it comes to having a child and if you are reallly ready for that huge commitment. Sometimes a pregnancy just happens without planning, yet, it's clear your wife wants to find a way to get pregnant no matter how you really feel about it. While some women choose to have a child without being married, it's a very different story when in a marriage in that both individuals are LEGALLY bound to care for that child.