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Originally Posted by Betty_Banana
Seeing a Male T was very healing for me.It helped me see that not all males are abusive and untrustworthy. And that it was possible to love and be loved without anything sexual being involved.
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That is what I hope to get out of it (eventually) but for now males trigger too many littles, both fawning and frozen ones, for it to be safe.
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Originally Posted by Betty_Banana
I would like to eventually see a female T and stick it out though.I still have deep issues being able to trust females.Although most of my abuse was by males not being believed or protected by my mom and being punished for what was happening TO me(even when she saw it with her own 2 eyes) has left more damage than the abuse itself.I would be helped I believe, if I could learn to trust a female T,feel validated and believed.I have never been able to bear therapy with one long enough to have any benefit though.
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I am sorry you have been through those experiences. My own mother was similar. With our female therapist we cope by being very guarded and self-owning I think. We work with our therapist but we do not "attach" with her or feel "safe" with her. But we work with her because we know where we want to get to (healing wise) we know this work has to be done to get there, and she has the tools that will help. BUt she is definitely not trusted with our selves. Other than me very few alters will let her know who they are when they are with her.
I don't know if we will develop more trust with her as time goes on or not!