~Christina, I am so very sorry you both have to deal with this and with other challenges right now.

Would it make any difference to your H if the treating doctor wrote a prescription for H to stay home to heal? Some people will listen to a doctor when they will not listen to anyone else. And... what if your doctor -- rheumatologist/other -- writes for you to stay home to heal? It seems logical to to prioritize healing for you both; yet, I realize there are a lot of feelings about this trip, which often overrides logic, for all of us at times. I do understand that you'd like to see your daughter, to, as a part of your trip, too.

I hope the particulars all fall into place according to what is best for both of you.
Love Ya... bunches.