I'm sorry you went through what you did. It is incredibly painful to talk about it and you're really brave to do that. I encourage you to talk about this with your therapist. His response seems cold to you, it seems like he's misattuned to you in that moment. That's important information for a therapist to have.

I've had the same experience with my therapist, in terms of her asking what I felt at the time of an event, but at the time it was clear to me that she was genuinely curious to know how I felt and that she didn't want to push me one way or another. She wanted me to say out loud how I was feeling at the time when I thought it had been painful enough just to say what had happened, let alone think about how it had made me feel.

You should also tell him how you feel physically when telling him these experiences. Again, important information for a therapist to have. I also think you're brave for wanting to work this out with him. He should be able to help you learn techniques to calm down that physical reaction before your leave his office, so you're not feeling it the whole rest of the day.