Did you ever watch the movie "Sabrina"? I don't know if you can get access to that movie where you live, but it's a good movie to watch. One of the character's in the movie is always the one that is busy working and never really learned how to "play". This character is the oldest male and he has a younger brother that tends to play while he took over the business his father had and focused all his attention on running that business. At one point he talked about how his younger brother used to go to the office but just stopped going. Sabrina told him that the reason he stopped going when asked was "Why should I go when my older brother is there running everything".

You say you don't travel, that you were not interested in getting married and that you are very honest and proficient. You shared that you don't really stop and chit chat with people that travel either. When people travel Emily, they like to sit and talk about all the interesting things they saw and experienced. It's very possible other people don't take time to fact find because they all know YOU will do that. It's very possible that you are just too private and withdrawn where other people feel you are just not interested in them personally.