I think - my opinion - that you should stop thinking about this not-so-rare area of pleasure and give into it so that you can decide if you want to explore this as a lifestyle or not.

You would make a perfect vanilla sub - terrific for a vanilla dom. M/F might not matter.

What you seem to want is punishment by hands on yer bum spanking that arse? Humiliation in small doses?

Please, stop overthinking this fascination - just do it, like.