My older sister has this presence about her that turns people off. That's because she seems to need others to measure up to HER standards all the time. She was/is very talented in her own way yet she tended to be too bossy and controlling with other people. I was able to play with her (I am 4 years younger than her) as a child, but I always knew that when we played SHE had to play HER WAY. She tends to turn people off having that kind of personality.