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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Let's refrase that, people don't want to hang out with people who tend to be too rigid and closed. They prefer to spend time with people who are more open and less controlling. One of the sayings used to describe the controlling older brother is "he is the only LIVING heart donor".
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See but I am not controlling. I am 100% the opposite of that. However, every time we come to a meeting they have done.. nothing ...and I rewrote the declaration of trust with amendments and btw, I fixed a few maintenance requests myself and oh also, did the agenda and etc. It is more on the line of David feeling he is unnecessary because Linus has taken care of it already.
They don't like it. They want everyone to show up having done nothing. They have made a choice to have the life they have... which includes going to the beach on the weekends and or seeing a movie and they want to do that and be on the board. But the fact that I choose not to do those things and be on the board and DO WORK, makes them feel like slackers and they don't like that.
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My mother always pushed the idea that we were the best of all the relatives - they were the best parents, we were the smartest and tallest and most talented kids, also the oldest (except for the ones who were older, but they didnt really count for some reason!) - and i bought into it.
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Nope. Honestly I wish it weren't true but in this circumstance the level they bring to the table is very very low and it would be inaccurate to not state that I legitimately objectively do a much better job than they do. I hope to inspire them by my example but they don't want to work hard. They see the work as something they "putter with" and I don't. But clearly they are judgmental to me. They want to bring me down to their level and I want to raise them up to mine. But I hope only that they will see my example and join in. Instead of doing that they seem to childishly resent me for being me.
But ok they don't like me but the board member I don't like is reviled in the condo. He is patronizing and rude and does not care about the law or the truth or anything and yet, knowing he is lying to them or knowing they got on the board because they were so outraged by him (which we all did), they still prefer him because at the end of the day he is amusing and when he lies about a resident they can say "yah right" and get all gossipy. When I call out that this is probably not true and I have never seen that resident act that way.. they are all upset that I saw through the ruse and they feel foolish for believing it.
On my last board one of the other ladies was the "alpha" and I did get off the board because I didn't feel I was necessary and my input wasn't valued, but the difference here was that I offered no ill will toward her and always tried to talk to her and the other member but the moment I got off they acted like I was persona non grata.