For me, the concept of the good enough therapist works. No one is perfect, there are always going to be things that bug us about other people, therapists or not. I think it's really good and important that your t gives space for the things that might be be a problem for you so that your feelings can be heard. Maybe your t is worried that things could deteriorate if they're not talked about? You're certainly not an odd client, if your t works for you than that's great.

I see my t as good enough and to be honest often more than good enough. I do think there's a bit of idealising going on still but she really is a fantastic t, extremely sensitive and attuned to me and very nurturing. However, when there are potential problems I really appreciate it when she acknowledges how I'm feeling. There was an instance recently when she inadvertently gave too much information in a text which was triggering for me but we talked about it and she was extremely sensitive and validating and recognised what wasnt helpful to me, and that was all that mattered.