Some do some don’t. My T believes very firmly in a genuine relationship that allows him some space to be him. He has owned his fear that I will get upset with him and leave therapy without talking to him (abandon him). He can have the fear he just can’t act out of it, he still has to do therapy with me even at the risk of pissing me off.

I guess in the way he was taught there is much more acceptance that there are two people in the room he isn’t a blank slate for transference, he isn’t simply a detached doctor prescribing treatment. He said a few sessions ago “my job is to be your Dr. The relationship we are creating in that process is a real relationship outside of being your Dr. Being your Dr though I need to always put your treatment first in our relationship.