As some of you guys know, people at my work have the ability to work from home whenever they want (although they do encourage you to go into the office for productivity purposes). Well, there was this one guy who hadn’t shown up to work in about a year or so. No one knew why, but he just worked from home even though he lives like 20 mins from the office. (Suspicious much?) Turns out that he changed his gender. He was transitioning this whole time. It came out of the blue.

I knew that he and his wife had talked about having kids, but man, I feel bad for the wife. She was totally blindsided apparently. (And yes, they’ve divorced.)

I have no problem with LGBTQ people and I don’t care what people do with their lives as long as they’re not hurting anyone. So, like who you like, practice whatever religion you want, whatever. However, I do think it was a sh_tty thing to do, especially since he admitted to wanting to be a girl ever since he was little and especially since his wife wanted kids. I feel like he was stringing her along this whole time, because it seems like he was trying to fit in at her expense. I mean, I do feel bad that many transgender people (or LGBT people in general) have a hard time fitting in and getting accepted, but what he did was very hurtful to his wife.

On one hand, I want to support him and his transition, but on the other hand, I feel like it was pretty sh_tty to put someone through that. I mean, he admitted he likes men because he genuinely feels he was born a girl, and I have no problem if he feels that way, but is it wrong of me to wonder if he ever loved his wife in the same way a straight man would love his straight wife? I’m sure he didn’t go out of his way to make his wife miserable and I’m sure he didn’t intend to hurt her, but am I wrong for thinking he was selfish? Am I wrong for thinking he should have never married a woman in the first place knowing he likes men? Am I wrong for being disgusted with his behavior?