What is it with these types of men?! They see themselves as the victim of everyone else's actions, so that THEY don't have to take responsibility for themselves. It's like they derive pleasure from their own misery. God forbid you ask these guys to grow up, b/c that's asking them too much.

They refuse to accept ANY responsibility for their current circumstances because it's LIFE's fault, never theirs. The world is against them. They can't be mature. They can't follow through. They can't respect my feelings or care about me as a person.

I'm sick of it!

Where are the emotionally available, mentally healthy men to date? Where are they?

I've done the online dating game and all I got from it was an abusive relationship with a divorced man and some truly awful first and second dates from other men who were so wrong for me, it was horrifying.

Men are so shallow, it seems. All they think about is themselves. And since I'm over 40, my relationship value seems to have plummeted to an all-time low because the only men interested, are the ones who are looking for their next victim to emotionally manipulate. And, as my favorite clown from the 90s tv sketch show In Living Color said, "I don't think so. Homey don't play that."

I deserve to be with a man who is emotionally mature, takes responsibility for himself, is mentally healthy, and quick to apologize when he's wrong, vs. a man who gives me the silent treatment in an attempt to try to emotionally manipulate and control me, or who tries to play the victim with me so that I"ll put him first and myself second.

I hate that I can't find the healthy version of the man I deserve to be with. This is ridiculous!

End rant.