I understand what you mean, @yagr! I don't have a lot of advice to give to you except that standing up for yourself does not necessarily mean being rude! If someone asks you something that you deem inappropriate, such as asking for money or any other thing that you deem to be a violation of your privacy, the best thing to do is to just say "No" and explain that you're not in the position to do what they've asked. Yeah, it sucks when they ask you things like that, and it should NEVER happen to begin with, but like you've already wisely said, this behavior is up to THEM. ALL you can do is remember them what their position is. That's my opinion anyway! I hope other wiser posters will be able to help you out with more concrete advice! Perhaps what I wrote will be a start for you at least! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME you need to talk or you need Advice and Support! I'll try to get back to you as soon as I possibly can! My Inbox is ALWAYS opne for You and for EVERYONE! THAT'S A PROMISE! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, @yagr, and ALL of your Loved Ones!