Christina, that's a bummer that your husband still has more tests to come and questions to be answered. I think that if he forgets days, it could be because of a touch of trauma? I'm glad he's open to what doctors suggest in terms of your upcoming trip. I wonder if there would be some kind of compromise with it? Maybe you and hubby stay home, but have one of his friends/relatives visit soon for just a short bit (days vs. weeks). I don't think his class reunion is really that important, but that's just my view on class reunions.

Wild Coyote, I hope the SS stuff finally gets resolved. Somehow I missed some of that conversation (or didn't understand) but I agree that places ask for too much information sometimes.

Miguel'smom, I hope Miguel gets in the place he likes best.

sadveiledbride, it's great that today is a better day. Please please savor this and try to put any negative stuff out of your mind. We can't change the past, but we can savor the present and move in as positive ways as possible into the future.

bluebicycle, I must concur with fern46 about your transgender work colleague. Though I definitely feel for his wife and family I also feel for the pain and conflict he (she) has surely felt for most of his/her life. I am not a member of the LGBT community, but I do understand at least a little bit about the pressures and pain in feeling one has to be untrue to themselves, sometimes. We never fully know another person's journey or struggles, especially one quite different than our own. I'm sure he did love his wife, though. That is also a pain he has to deal with. Losing her, in a sense. It's not 100% his wife's pain. As for working from home for a full year, I can certainly understand if he has had fear about returning with a new gender identity. It's likely the same fear he has had all along. As we need therapy and time to accept and process our challenges, so does he. Honestly, I am happy for him that he finally broke free of his chains. It is sad that it hurt those close to him, too. However, as I wrote to sadveiledbride above, he must look at the present and find peace and happiness in the future. So must his ex wife and family.

Wander, I'm happy for you that you're having an open conversation with your doctor. That's wonderful that you are feeling free from too much control!