Ouch, I would feel hurt by that too. I wish he would have just said "let's talk about this next time" and left it at that. Hugs LT.

Eta: it felt ok at first then I started feeling bad for you the longer I read. Probably my own attachment stuff, my own 'good girl' complex, that says I would feel very scolded by parts of this if it came from L. Lots of 'my stuff' in my reaction I realize.