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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn
Ouch, I would feel hurt by that too. I wish he would have just said "let's talk about this next time" and left it at that. Hugs LT.
Eta: it felt ok at first then I started feeling bad for you the longer I read. Probably my own attachment stuff, my own 'good girl' complex, that says I would feel very scolded by parts of this if it came from L. Lots of 'my stuff' in my reaction I realize.
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Thanks, Art. I have a "good girl" thing, too. So I think I also may have felt scolded. And like a child. Though I suspect it's my child part that reacted to the standing stuff anyway. And I also wish he'd just said let's talk about it next time. But I also emailed, so...I guess I sort of was asking for it. I wish he'd said he wanted to explore more what it was about, what was going on with me. It just feels he made it all about him. Rather than going with what I said about how I think this is at least partly about something else. Maybe I should have just made the whole email about that element, I don't know. But I can't unsend it...