Dear LT, I'm sorry that you are feeling hurt and upset over T not standing and then again by his email. I'm not sure I see why him standing or not standing is so important to you but it seems like it is related somehow to him caring about you and showing that he cares about you. My apologies if that is not what it is about. At my last session, my T kept calling me the wrong name. It's a version of my name, but it's not my name. It bothered me but I didn't say anything about it. I didn't infer that she cared less about me (I did infer she's too busy to properly look at her forms before seeing me or she just assumes my name is a shortened version of that name which it is not). I didn't call her out on it. I could tell by the rest of the session that she does care about me. It seems like you are staking a lot on this one thing--standing or not standing. Would it be at all helpful to make a list of the things your T does that shows you that he cares about you? You also seemed to say that it felt like he didn't get you. But sometimes it seems like he does indeed "get" you very much so. But T's are human and they make mistakes, and they miss the mark sometimes. It's like playing darts. You can't have a bullseye every time. Can you think about some of the positive things T has done that has been helpful to you? Then maybe you can discuss at your next appointment what you think the standing and not standing is really about. Because when something that may not be the biggest deal is impacting us, it might be the tip of the iceburg that needs to be excavated. I already know you are very brave and I think you can face this. Perhaps the reason you hadn't brought up the standing not standing thing before now is that you are now ready to deal with the iceburg. No matter what, we are here for you, cheering you on, supporting you, rooting for you. HUGS Kit