Normally I’m not in the habit of giving advice or telling others what to do but here goes...

Trouble is brewing here, LT. Your T told you he doesn’t want to be micromanaged and T and backup T have already discussed and vetoed your request for the consultation.

My best advice:

1) No more demands about what T should or should not do for you. I’m guessing the micromanaging feels hurtful to him as it would to anyone else.

2) No more emails unless it’s for scheduling purposes. No therapeutic content in emails moving forward - discuss everything face to face in session.

3) Continue to discuss all of your feelings surrounding T’s behavior (and how it impacts you) in session while using “I” statements every time.

Disclaimer: I really have no idea whether my advice is what is best for you or not. These are just my particular thoughts at this moment in time. But maybe you will find something of value...something meaningful in what I’ve written here?

I admire your courage and perseverance! I wish you all the best as you move forward!