Discout, what I'm saying will depress you and make you feel uncomfortable, but never tell anyone about this. All it takes is a few drinks, or in just the right mood, or if you say something that bothers someone else, or if you break up with your partner--they will talk. And then once one person knows, then two people know, then their best friends know, then their spouses know, and then their friends will know, then it's public knowledge. I'm not judging you, I'm just being real with you. Cupid, or in the Greek Eros, was the god of love, and when he used his arrows to strike those to love something, he often times did so begrudgingly to good people who then afterwords to things that can get them in trouble or, if others knew, to things that could humiliate a person. ((hugs))