Sorry that you're hurting LT. I can understand you feeling 'scolded'. I do think that your T's email wasn't that bad though. I feel he was clear and professional and laid out his boundary. I can understand his objection to standing and his dislike of being micromanaged as when I read your email to me it sounded like that's what was you were trying to do. I don't think you were as you say I think it's about a lot of other things but I can see how it could come across like that to him. As another poster said he perhaps might be best to start exploring why you want him to stand, what does it mean to you for him to stand? What does it mean for you that he won't stand etc. I hope your session tomorrow goes okay and you resolve some things