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sarahsweets · Aug 07, 2019, 02:21 AM

@streetcarblanche:

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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche

What is it with these types of men?! They see themselves as the victim of everyone else's actions, so that THEY don't have to take responsibility for themselves. It's like they derive pleasure from their own misery. God forbid you ask these guys to grow up, b/c that's asking them too much.

Makes you wonder if they are the sterotypical "Mama's boys".

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They refuse to accept ANY responsibility for their current circumstances because it's LIFE's fault, never theirs. The world is against them. They can't be mature. They can't follow through. They can't respect my feelings or care about me as a person.

I know this isnt quite narcisstic but it makes you wonder.

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Men are so shallow, it seems. All they think about is themselves. And since I'm over 40, my relationship value seems to have plummeted to an all-time low because the only men interested, are the ones who are looking for their next victim to emotionally manipulate. And, as my favorite clown from the 90s tv sketch show In Living Color said, "I don't think so. Homey don't play that."

Its so backwards and reminds me of the way women are looked at as they age vs men. Women are expected to color their hair to hide the grey, practically sleep in makeup so they always look on point, have a perfect figure, the latest fashions and be willing to sleep with you at anytime. Women are criticized for aging. Men on the other hand tend to look "wise". Gray hair is the new sexy. No one suggests they get botox and "work" done to make them seem younger. How many times have you heard about a 50 year old man dating a 30 year old woman?

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I deserve to be with a man who is emotionally mature, takes responsibility for himself, is mentally healthy, and quick to apologize when he's wrong, vs. a man who gives me the silent treatment in an attempt to try to emotionally manipulate and control me, or who tries to play the victim with me so that I"ll put him first and myself second.

Yes you do deserve all of that.

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I hate that I can't find the healthy version of the man I deserve to be with. This is ridiculous!

End rant.

I hate the way things are now when it comes to dating but I have no answers. I know that if I had to date now or wasnt married I would be screwed and wouldnt know the first thing about dating. And I wouldnt be able to tolerate the "titty-babies" that are out on the prowl.