This all is interesting because, from that email he sent you, I had the impression that he is indeed looking at his role in it pretty strongly - just won't share it with you. And now you start speculating that something might be off in his life.

Here is how I personally see it. If you want to use this situation and the comments here for your benefit, I would probably ask myself the question whether this pushing people's limits and wanting them to turn into something else (wasn't it the case with MC as well, who quite massively deviated from his professional role?) only happens in therapy for you or also a tendency in your everyday life. I guess stopdog was getting to something similar above. Because, as you can see from many comments here, people react to this pretty strongly and not necessarily in a positive way. Especially because it is quite subtle, often appealing and sophisticated, it can come across as a positive challenge... perhaps that's why you succeed... but people will inevitably have limits, therapists or not. Unlike MC in the past, this T makes it clear where his limits are when they are reached, and will take responsibility for it ("it is not about you"). What else would you like him to do? To satisfy your wishes, of course... but, my feeling is that if you reach a certain level with the demands, people will likely start reacting the exact opposite way and distance themselves further, and you will remain even more dissatisfied with the reactions deep down and feel hurt. Dunno, just something to maybe consider. Again, if it only happens in therapy, it may not be too important.

On seeing him and another T in parallel - I am also often positive about juggling them and using each for what they are most suitable/useful. In your case though, I am not so sure... I could see it turning into a situation where you have one main T and another one to provide therapy about what's less satisfying for you about the main T... Spend a lot of money on that, instead of the things that are relevant to your normal life and relationships. Just my opinion, I am sure many others will see it differently.