You do have a tendency to get hung up on the trees and lose the forest.

You know this isn't about standing, etc., so stop talking about standing. Talk about your feelings. Talk about where this is coming from. It isn't about your T. That's his point.

You are internally uncomfortable about this, but it isn't about what your therapist is or isn't doing. He changing his behavior isn't going to change what is really going on with you internally, so there is really no benefit to you if he changes that behavior; your internal issues will still be there, just masked because you managed to get him to somehow "fix" your discomfort, but it is only a temporary fix.

Other people can't and shouldn't have to try to do gymnastics around us because of our own internal issues. It's an exercise in futility. It is a form of testing as you mentioned before.

Get focused on the forest again (the bigger picture). All these little issues about your therapists are just avoiding the bigger issues about yourself.